I am quite the shopper but dont think I simply walk into the high street chain stores to find my garments. I go first to the charity shops. I learnt pretty quickly on that some of the most wonderful garments show up in these places. I tend to go to ones away from student towns as they are all to often already sold out of the ‘goodies’ I crave. I know so many vintage dealers/shops go to charity shops to buy their stock. They simply wack on their percentage and sell it you with a nice label of ‘vintage’. Who can blame them? I mean its business and there is a market. Admittedly not all do this.

Anyway I just wanted people to realise there are some awesome goodies to be found in charity shops…

Here are some of my purchases:

Dress: 60s £12 Belt: £2   both charity shop.

My actual vintage tea set, vase and jug. Bought for a tenner in charity shops this week. Sadly my ex kept most of the tea set

Dress: 70s original £20.

dress: 70s original with rhinestone clasp. £2!!!

I love charity shops. But be aware you will have to rifle to find the pretties!

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My own photography has really taken off. I have been booked in for two boudoir shoots already and some of my work has been published both here and stateside so I am beyond proud. I should really start creating a website for it perhaps? Probably not as ideally I want to keep it under the Khandie Khisses banner…anyway here are some latest self portraits and work I have done.

All copyrighted mind!

If you want to book your own shoot please contact me directly x info(at)KhandieKhisses(dot)com

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When I first started this weightloss it was a natural side effect of having a broken heart but as time went along, the weight loss became a recovery process for me. Now I have reached the end of my journey.

I recently learnt my ex married the former student of mine less than 6 months after we split and I wish them entirely and wholly an amazing life together. I know now I am more amazing alone than I was with him or having them in my lives. Its odd when you see an ex and smile inwardly. Lucky escapes are few and far between and I dont regret a single thing I have done.

The weightloss was a good way to cope with being lost as it gave me focus. With each pound that slipped away I felt like I was becoming more complete.

Sadly I also felt I lost some of my identity as I was so used to being the ‘fat chick’ in my friendship circle and on the stage. Now I am not. I had to really evaluate how I saw myself and learn to enjoy my body again. I have to say I am still working on this as I have spent so long in the bigger skin.

Now I am stopping the dieting. I am going to keep up the exercise and maintain my shape. I am proud of the loss but more proud of where the journey led me to. I am more content and happy in my heart than I have been in many years.

To all of you struggling, take control of one aspect. Play with it and dont let it confine you or define you. It is merely a focus point. Enjoy yourselves.

Weightloss ends. 26 April 2013

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I as a plus size model have had to keep a close check on my measurements for agencies.

So BEFORE the weightloss:

Bust: 41inches

Waist: 33inches

Hips: 44.5inches

NOW currently

Bust: 37 inches (- 4inches)

Waist: 28 inches (-5inches)

Hips: 39.5 inches. (-5inches)

2stone lost too….

Latest weightloss 18th April 2013. Ignore bruised ribs.

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1. The man who wrote letters to himself in the third person and read one out to me on a date. It spoke of his relationship with his mother. I kindly excused myself and walked the 5 miles home in wedge heels.
2. The man who admitted to sleeping with his cousin when he was ‘very drunk’ a few years ago. I nearly threw up.
3. The psychotherapist who referred to himself as ‘Psycho The Rapist’. I ended it there on the date.
4. The band boy who pissed on his own jeans. He used to dye his sideburns and wear so much moisturizer he looked greasy.
5. The girl who forgot she was married. I met her husband on our 3rd date. It was awkward.
6. The woman who was married and introduced me to both her husband and her boyfriend on our 1st date. At their front door. After I kissed her goodnight.
7. The man who told me I reminded him of his daughter…his dead daughter.
8. The man who insisted I call him Big Daddy. ALL THE TIME. I said it once and walked out.

More to come soon…..haha!

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His ex once left a loaf of bread on the doorstep for him with a unicorn card.

He said his job was easy to remember because it was ‘Psycho The Rapist’.

I ended it there and then.

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I see my clothes becoming looser and fitting worse and yet I dont find myself buying smaller sizes. I find, instead I am reluctant to do so, almost afraid. Perhaps it is because I am worried if I dont fit the smaller sizes I will be disappointed in myself.

Recently I went shopping. I went and grabbed my usual size and as I stood in the mirror in a dress I found myself squirming in it. I looked like crap. Instead of thinking perhaps a smaller size was required, I felt fat and frumpy. Fun as I was clearly not fat like I was before. It took a lovely shop assistant to walk over and say ‘try a size or two smaller’.

TWO SIZES SMALLER?! WHAT THE HELL!!!

So my friend ran off and got me a smaller size. Suddenly I saw what I should have seen before. I am a slimmer more defined shape now. My curves and slight belly are still there but man…I am smaller.

Its so weird that it takes someone else pointing it out that we have lost weight and need to dress for it, that we realise we really have. Fitting in with our new selves…

I have gone from this…

To this. Same outfit.

I have started to enjoy dressing up more…I purchased DISCO PANTS!

Finding my new silhouette fun to dress!

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Have been on some utterly awful dates and I will openly admit that some have been due to my own stupidity. I have often found myself reluctantly being almost forced onto dates with well meaning friends who feel i ‘should get back out there’. By getting me back out there, they often forget that you should really contact in some level with the person sat opposite you. I once sat across from a man who felt a discussion on pro-life/pro-choice was a good topic on a first date. Lets not forget the woman who wanted to discuss why I shave my armpits. (oh I am bi).

Sometimes it is my own awkwardness that renders a date a no-go. I mean I once rather ignorantly refused to meet a man again who said 1Direction produced good tunes. Ok…I was totally justified in that respect. The other date I kinda regret sabotaging was with the muscle bound masseuse who was drop dead gorgeous. However something about a man who had massage my flesh before I knew his name meant first base had been well and truly reached and anything else was simply awkward. I mean…he had put his hands practically all over me. I even changed my physiotherapist so I didnt have to run into him again.

Currently my time is very limited so perhaps it is best I dont date again for a while. It always ends up the same, me heading home a tad glum and overly critical….dating really is a minefield. BAH!

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Recently I have allowed this blog to fall somewhat by the wayside as I have been working so hard in other areas. Not always good when it comes to maintaining readership but what can I say? I mean I am only one person. There is only so much that I can do.
 
The key is where to make the cuts. So now I am thinking I will blog about more everyday things as I am about to make a big move in my life as I relocate home. This means expect lots of house updates and not to mention my photography. For those who don’t know…I am a photographer with a number of paid shoots under my belt. Wish me luck darlings. I am working through all of this.

BTW those of you requesting more dating articles. They are on their way I promise.

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