Its been a long time coming but I am now done. I am done with dieting. It is time to stop the dieting and enjoy all the hard work I have done.

When I first started this weightloss it was a natural side effect of having a broken heart but as time went along, the weight loss became a recovery process for me. Now I have reached the end of my journey.

I recently learnt my ex married the former student of mine less than 6 months after we split and I wish them entirely and wholly an amazing life together. I know now I am more amazing alone than I was with him or having them in my lives. Its odd when you see an ex and smile inwardly. Lucky escapes are few and far between and I dont regret a single thing I have done.

The weightloss was a good way to cope with being lost as it gave me focus. With each pound that slipped away I felt like I was becoming more complete.

Sadly I also felt I lost some of my identity as I was so used to being the ‘fat chick’ in my friendship circle and on the stage. Now I am not. I had to really evaluate how I saw myself and learn to enjoy my body again. I have to say I am still working on this as I have spent so long in the bigger skin.

Now I am stopping the dieting. I am going to keep up the exercise and maintain my shape. I am proud of the loss but more proud of where the journey led me to. I am more content and happy in my heart than I have been in many years.

To all of you struggling, take control of one aspect. Play with it and dont let it confine you or define you. It is merely a focus point. Enjoy yourselves.

Weightloss ends. 26 April 2013